In September of this year I took a leave of absence from my job as an ESL teacher at Midea International School in Beijiao, near Foshan, China. I had several reasons for doing so, not the least of which was that I wanted to undergo cataract surgery in the USA.
I am currently unable to see anything except lights and shadows in my left eye and, according to my doctor, cataracts are beginning to form in my right eye. My surgery is scheduled for November 15th.
One of the benefits of being a teacher at Midea School was a sizable discount on my daughter’s tuition. However, since it has taken longer than anticipated to obtain insurance and schedule appointments, my school has requested me to pay at least half of my daughter’s tuition. Unfortunately, I need help doing this.
In China, schooling is “free” only in the village where one’s family is registered. Unfortunately, we live a long way from the place where my daughter’s “hukou” is of any use. Education is actually quite expensive in China and it is not uncommon for a family to pay more for education than they do for housing.
Even where education is “free” there are costs for books and miscellaneous fees. In the past, headmasters expected “hongbao,” (red packets of money) from parents. Fortunately, this tradition is changing.
Anyway, I hope I have answered some of your questions. If you would like further information, please let me know.
Your interest and generosity is greatly appreciated!
Did they have pepperoni pizza in ancient Egypt? Was Pharaoh’s dream about the seven fat cows and the seven skinny cows the result of a late night snack, or something more meaningful? Joseph’s take on it was that “interpretations belong to God.” (Genesis 40:8).
We spend a third of our life in slumber. A good part of that time we spend in dreamland. Westerners have a habit of approaching life from a scientific, analytical viewpoint; we’re naturally suspicious of mystic mumbo-jumbo. In contrast, other cultures have no problem jumping in with both feet.
For the sake of balance, let’s just take the position that dreams are interesting… weird, but interesting. Here are some steps you can follow if you want to do your own dream study.
Get a notebook and put it by your bed. This is going to be your dream diary. Since we’ve already agreed that dreams are weird, you should take whatever steps necessary to protect your privacy. Enough said.
Before going to sleep, you should write down a summary of the day’s events. You should also write down anything you’d like to “work on” during the night. You know – string theory, world peace – stuff like that. Or maybe you just need a seven letter word for “rash.”
If you wake up in the middle of the night, note the time and what you were dreaming. You might also like to make a note to fix that leaky faucet.
When you wake in the morning write down everything you can remember about any dreams you may have had. Then call the plumber.
Don’t rush into dream interpretation just yet. You’ll need to get used to this routine and collect sufficient “data.” (Even though I’m taking a light-hearted tone, I think this is actually pretty important stuff.)
There’s a scientific principle that states you cannot observe anything in nature without changing it. In this case, that’s a good thing. You should start to remember more and more of your dream life.
Once you’ve collected a couple of weeks worth of data, it’s time for phase two. Read over what you’ve written. Look for patterns, insights and connections between your dream time and your awake time.
Although there’s a wealth of material available on the subject of dream interpretation, steer clear of it at this point. The question is “what do YOU think your dreams are trying to tell you?”
As much as possible, share your experiences with those who are closest to you. Ask them for ideas. And yes, it’s okay now to go to the Internet, library and (if you must) your local psychic. If you’re really concerned, make an appointment with your doctor.
Tips and warnings
Most of us probably don’t get the quantity or quality of sleep we need. Now is the time to do something about it. Clean your bedroom, put fresh sheets on your bed, flip the mattress. (Not necessarily in that order.)
How much caffeine do you consume in a day? If you think it may be too much, cut it out altogether for a short period and see if that affects your sleep or your dreams.
Diet and exercise have a profound effect on sleep and dreams. I guess you knew that already, huh?
This is enough for one article, so good luck with your study and, of course, sweet dreams!
I just finished watching a movie called She’s Out of My League. In the movie a guy who is a 5 or a 6 gets the girl who is a 10. Do you think this is possible? I consider myself to be a 5, but if I shower and stuff I could probably be a 6.5 or possibly a 7. The problem is I always go for 10’s. What’s your advice?
Loveless in Lake Wobegon
Dude, it’s a movie! However, you might want to read the following article…
How to Find a Chinese Bride
Be serious. Chinese women do not like players either. Their culture is intensely marriage and family oriented.
Step 2 Be stable. You don’t have to be rich (although it helps), but most Chinese women want to know if you own a house…